Ceremonies With Style

7 Things to Consider Before You Get Married

2012-01-17T20:16:00.000-08:00

You want a rewarding and fulfilling marriage? You can have one, but you need a dose of reality first. Here are things you need to say “I do” to before walking down the aisle…

Do you have a sense of humour?
A sense of humour is vital, and the first person you have to laugh at is yourself. Consider this- men and women have to hook up on some level to propagate the species, proving God has a sense of humour. He obviously assumed
we would too.

Do you know you’ll have to work? Hard?
I asked the opinion of dozens of women for this topic, and the feedback was unanimous. You have to be willing to work. Some women think if you’re a perfect match, your marriage shouldn’t be work. Those people are called divorcees. It’s true your marriage shouldn’t be work every hour of every day, but there will be days when your marriage will require extra energy (a term I prefer over “work”). Like Grandpa used to say, anything worth having is worth working for. Welcome to Marriage

Do you realize marriage is not 50/50?
Gotcha! You figure you’ll give half, he’ll give half and you’ll meet somewhere in the middle. You poor, poor dear. The reality is, there will be some days you’ll give 90% and you may or may not get 10% back. There may be weeks or months that pass with the scales out of whack. Remember- you committed your whole life to him, and in your lifetime the scales will shift back in your favour. Interestingly, the scales will align faster if you abandon the scorecard and self-pity.

Do you have a general acceptance of your significant other’s shortcomings?
Does he leave the toilet seat up? Get over it. Are his table manners a fright? Look the other way. Is he a tight-wad? You better be at one with strict budgets. Try seeing your new hubby’s annoying habits as endearing. In addition to his positive traits, his quirks make him who he is. Figure out a way to truly accept the whole package- the good, the bad and the ugly.

Do you have expectations of your marriage or soon-to-be-spouse?
If you said “I do” to this one, start goggling divorce attorneys now.
Fundamental expectations like being treated well, being faithful, or being honest are covered by your wedding vows. If you want a long lasting marriage, let go of any romance novel or Lifetime movie expectations you have. The men in Hollywood are actors. Real men, generally speaking, are not geared for romance and eloquent, loving speeches. With this attitude, you’ll better enjoy the thoughtful little things your new husband does. Lowered expectations and happily ever after go hand in hand.

Do you know comparisons are a death sentence for marriages?
Like fingerprints, marriages are unique and specific to the two individuals involved and the one-of-a-kind bond they create. Instead of scowling at your husband when your friend brags about the romantic vacation her husband took her on, just smile. Maybe your friend left out how her husband ogled other women on the beach or said something at dinner that made her cry. You never know what goes on behind closed doors- be secure in what you and your husband share and the knowledge that it works for you.

Do you know your fiancé is bilingual?
Read a couple books about how men communicate or have a sit-down with your aunts and grandma. We think we grasp the Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus concept, but we don’t. He may not say “I love you” 14 times a day, but he might fill your car when it’s out of gas, maybe he’ll cover you with a blanket when you’re cold, he may bring you a glass of wine when you’re in the tub, or he might listen to stories about the kids when he just wants to crawl in a hole and go to sleep. You have to learn to read, understand and appreciate man-speak.

In order for a marriage to be successful, reality can’t be sugar-coated. Long term commitments are not for the faint of heart. A lasting union takes a great deal of love, patience, true grit and guts. The benefits are countless. I’ll leave you to discover those on your own.

The Pre-Nup” - Let’s Talk about Prenuptial Agreements

2011-07-06T22:49:00.000-07:00

As you are in the second phase of life, you never thought you would fall in love. But, as life brings sweet surprises you have finally found Mr. Wonderful. Because of career choices and other priorities and circumstances, you are getting married now, later in life.

To the bride and groom, marriage is a loving contract between two people who want to spend the rest of their lives together, but in the eyes of the law, marriage is a contract between two people which is not about love but about a variety of financial rights and obligations. You should not look at a prenuptial agreement as a lack of faith in the relationship but as protection against unforeseen circumstances.

Think of it as an “insurance policy” covering the legal issues of your marriage contract that you get to write yourself. If it is difficult to talk about your loving, committed relationship as if it were a business arrangement, consulting with a legal, professional advisor will make it easier.

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Big Decisions Marrying Later in Life

2011-07-06T22:27:00.000-07:00

Your ideas, your visions, bring your dreams to life.

A rapidly growing number of women are marrying later in life.

From the dress, etiquette, beauty tips, lifestyle changes, your careers, homes, blending families, prenuptial agreements as well as other hot topics, perhaps these answers to your questions may help making it easier to navigate the challenges of Marrying Later in Life. Blending families, homes, finances, careers and building healthy lifestyles are just a few of the decisions a bride must address with her groom. Among some of the major decisions you will be facing, there are three top ones to keep in the fore front of all your discussions

First of all keep your communication open and alive, for this will set the tone of your future relationship.

Finances are another area to keep in mind. Create an open conversation with your concerns, as you will probably have accumulated financial resources, properties, homes, as well as children before meeting. You have each built a life for yourself before meeting, embrace that life.

Establish mutual goals based on each of your core values as individuals and as a couple. You are moving ahead with a new life to share. With these three decisions in place you will be able to weather any storm!

Combining families in a later in life marriage is always a challenge whether they are young or old. Each age has different issues to adjust to, whether the previous marriages ended in divorce or the death of a spouse.

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Post Wedding - Take Time Out With Each Other

2011-03-05T14:29:00.000-08:00

Once your vows are official treat yourselves to some relaxation dedicated to hobbies activities or other recreational pursuits. These activities may include sports, cooking classes reading travel arts and craft or just socialising with friends

Many engaged couples find that the months before the wedding are filled with wedding-related activities. Weekends are given over to wedding related projects and wistfully look forward to a time when they can check off the activities on their “After the Wedding” list. It may look something like this

• Get the house back (free of wedding clutter)
• Reserve leisurely Saturdays for doing absolutely nothing
• Take a Sunday drive somewhere new and actually have the time to do it
• Regains a social life
• Join friends on a Monday night at a favourite bar
• Work on a project

Here’s your change when the first weekend after the honeymoon arrives you may find yourself with nothing to do. Going through a big life-change is difficult and that’s true for this big shift from fiancés to newlyweds.
Explore new hobbies both individually and as a couple. It is important to maintain your individuality as it is to find your identity as a couple.

Jan Littlejohn
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Overseas visitors

2010-05-26T20:20:00.000-07:00

Overseas visitors….you may like to be married in Australia, near the beach, Sydney Harbour or the beautiful Botanical Gardens. I have assisted in arranging many weddings for couples from overseas: USA, UK, Germany, Hong Kong, and Canada, … personalising your wedding ceremony, including customs from your country. Assisting in all legal requirements, under Australian Law.

Happy to assist with your arrangements including venues, Hire Cars Restaurants, Hair and Make-up Artists, Photographers, Florists, and any other details you need attending to.

Your Ceremony is the gateway to your wedding day ……………May peace, joy and contentment be your steadfast companions as you travel along your new path. Best wishes for your special day. ………….. Feel free to contact Jan at ‘Ceremonies with Style’ anytime.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style

Tips for Establishing Healthy Blended Families

2010-03-03T22:05:00.000-08:00

Go slowly. Don't expect to fall in love with your partner’s children overnight. Take it slowly, and get to know them. Love and respect have to be learned and a step parent has to earn them.

All brothers and sisters have “falling out” periods, so don’t assume all family arguments are the result of living in a blended family.

Beware of favouritism. Be fair. Don’t overcompensate by favoring your stepchildren. This is a common mistake, made with best intentions, in an attempt to avoid indulging your biological children.

Communicate, communicate, communicate. Be sure to discuss everything. Never keep emotions bottled up or hold grudges.

Make special arrangements. If some of the kids “just visit,” make sure they have a locked cupboard for their personal things. Bringing toothbrushes and other “standard fare” each time they come to your home makes them feel like a visitor, not a member of the blended family. Find support. Locate a step parenting support organization in your community. You can learn how other blended families address some of the challenges of blended families.

Spend time every day with your child. Try to spend at least one “quiet time” period with your child (or children) daily. Even in the best of blended families, children still need to enjoy some “alone time” with each parent.

Patience is a virtue! Don't just cross your fingers and hope the kids will like each other. They need time to get to know their stepbrothers or sisters. It shouldn’t be hurried.

Jan Littlejohn

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Why Have a Vow Renewal Ceremony?

2010-03-03T21:55:00.000-08:00

There are myriad reasons for having a vow renewal ceremony and the way in which you wish to celebrate and commemorate can be designed to reflect your preferences & style.
Below Are Just Some of The Many Reasons For Having a Vow Renewal Ceremony & Celebration:

Milestone Anniversary – Make a “milestone” any year: From One Year to 60 Years.

A personal milestone

Simply for sentimental reasons

You simply want to celebrate your love and have a party

You never had a real wedding celebration. Perhaps you eloped and had a simple civil ceremony.

Now you want “the real deal” with all the trimmings.

The Two of you & your marriage have persevered through tumultuous times and as a result your relationship has grown deeper & more meaningful.

You’re about to celebrate your first year as a married couple and you want to celebrate. (Some couples have a vow renewal ceremony every anniversary.

You want a special romantic getaway with just the two of you, a “Destination Renewal of Vows.

You want to publicly renew your wedding vows and proclaim your love.

Include children, grandchildren, your parents, friends & other relatives in your ceremony. Involving children & grandchildren in your ceremony, or, even just having them witnesses such a meaningful ceremony is a wonderful example for them to experience!From the intimate private vow renewal ceremony/celebration to the “grand entrance, walk down the aisle,” I can create and officiate a deeply meaningful personalized ceremony for you.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
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Chair Backs

2010-02-04T18:08:00.000-08:00

Chair back offer extra potential for decorating a room and have been relatively under used until recently. There is something very charming and quite unexpected about a chair embellished with a tied post or trimmed with a great gauzy ribbon. Pay special attention to the brides and grooms chairs and use simpler ideas for the rest of the seating, if you prefer. Choose long-lasting flowers that will look good all day.

Some ideas:

Hydrangeas are a good option as their papery flowers last well.

A simple paper cone overflows with green and white variegated foliage and a froth of humble cow parsley tied with a wide satin ribbon

A single diaphanous bow of palest yellow organdie softens a painted chair back

Or perhaps a washed-out sky blue of a mophead hydrangea partnered with a narrow pale blue ribbon on a white bentwood chair.

Jan Littlejohn
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Choosing a Transport Company - Tips for choosing your wedding transport.

2009-12-03T15:09:00.000-08:00

1. Of course you want to arrive in style, but everyone’s idea of style is different. Some have dreams of the ever romantic horse and carriage, while others could think of nothing better than roaring to the ceremony on the back of a Harley Davidson motorcycle.

2. Whatever you decide do your homework to make sure you are 100% confident that you get what you ask for.

3. Ask the company about their minimum hire time – most are between 3 and 4 hours. Some offer cheaper packages at different times of year, or have deals if you book well in advance find out exactly what your price includes.

4. Don’t be hesitant to quiz the company about their vehicle insurance, maintenance programs and drivers qualifications you want to be certain they will get you to your ceremony on time.

5. Ensure that you get the car you order and not one similar – this is particularly important if you have chosen a vehicle for its colour.

6. Read the cancellation policy carefully. Its pretty standard to lose your deposit if you cancel at the last minute, while others allow a certain time frame in case you change your mind.

7. Make sure there’s a mention of refund in writing if the company does the unthinkable and fails to show up. While both unthinkable and unlikely, you need to make sure you cover yourself – ask about back up vehicles.

8. Give the company you book and easy to read list of the addresses they are picking up from with contact numbers for each location and exact times you want them to arrive and depart.

9. You should allow time for decorations and photographs particularly for the bride’s car before heading off to the ceremony.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Where to Find the Right Words

2009-10-05T15:53:00.000-07:00

The marriage ceremony is much more than just saying “ I Do”, The perfect ceremony is a carefully chosen balance between words and music that are meaningful to the bride and groom and memorable for all the guests

Organising a wedding is a whirlwind of arrangements decisions and spending money. The thin that often slips to the bottom of the list of priorities is the ceremony, which is actually the whole point of getting married in the first place, so is crucial to the success of the whole event.

You don’t have to say much at all to become legally married. Basically the bride and groom giving consent to marry in front of an officiant, but surely this isn’t what all the waiting and anticipation has been about.

Agreeing to become man and wife is a big commitment a public declaration of your love and fidelity in front of family and friends and what you say to one another really does matter. The words and music that you include in your order of service whether it is a religious or civil wedding need to be carefully considered and it all deserve more than a few minutes of your time.

The vows of marriage

The words you say to one another during the marriage ceremony should be heartfelt regardless of whether you are having a religious or a civil ceremony. This is the big moment of commitment when you legally become husband and wife. Getting married is much more that wearing a gorgeous dress and enjoying a great party, you are agreeing to be legally bound in marriage to another person and this shouldn’t be entered into lightly.

All wedding vows are promises and you must not underestimate the power of the moment that you commit your future to another person. Whether you are having a religious or a civil ceremony spend some time reading samples of traditional vows so that you are comfortable with what you will be saying when it comes to your big moment.

The religious ceremony

Each faith has a slightly different marriage ceremony and you should talk through the wording with your officiant beforehand. This is your chance to think about what you want to say and if you would prefer to word thins a little differently…a religious ceremony doesn’t offer as much scope as a civil ceremony for changing the wording but some ministers or priests are happy to consider minor revisions.

The civil ceremony

You can choose a register office or a civil celebrant ceremony either case the process is the same….Firstly you need to contact your officiant -legal required time for lodging you notice of intention to marry is min. one month and one day.

In a civil ceremony you have more scope to personalise proceeding even going as far as writing your own vows.

Just remember that this is still a legal ceremony and anything you want to include should reflect the solemnity of the occasion. Keep anything too personal for a private moment between the two of you.

Jan Littlejohn
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Bridal Trends

2009-09-08T16:54:00.000-07:00

Wherever you proclaim your love be sure to shine on your important day here are some bridal trends in fashion for the upcoming year. Say yes to your Lancelot in an empire gown. This high waist style tops the list of most romantics and a fairytale wedding needs a princess to complete the story look radiant in a voluminous bejewelled ball gown think princess Diana or Carrie Vivienne Westwood dream dress in the movie sex and the city….

A Romantic Look
The empire dress of the Victorian era is updated this coming seas with oversizes chiffon floral appliqués for a picture perfect gown easy white silk and chiffon strapless with contrasting white silk bow is stunning Ivory taffeta gown with off the shoulder sleeves and bustled back…ivory duchess sating and taffeta tuxedo vest paired with a full silk organza asymmetrical skirt and completed with an ivory top hat is sure to make any bride the centre of attention

Floral Finishes
Tone-0n-tone floral appliqués and corsages are in full bloom this coming season Oversized silk taffeta cabbage rose corsage adorns a simple neckline while a pretty look gown with a chiffon floral lattice. or a sweet golden appliquéd bouquets add lush luxury

Fancy Frills
Why skirt the issue of looking all out glamorous Created layers of dazzling ruffles and frills at the hemlines of full length gowns creating a modern look to theses classics

Short Skirt
Higher hemlines are perfect for casual weddings…check out the sophisticated knee high creations

Silver Screen Elegance
Taking cues from 1960’s Hollywood heroines including Elizabeth Taylor and Sophia Lauren create a contemporary yet romantic look. A leading lady in jewelled halter A-line gown in white silk and organza or deep V-neck with ruffle trim on ruched silk. Or a modified trumpet with a soft sweetheart neckline finished in ivory mesh organza with cotton appliqués and scalloped hemline

Grecian Goddess Fashion forward brides who continue to update neoclassic, looks with beautifully draped silk taupe jersey and an asymmetrical on shoulder design that is tied at the back. Deep V-neck halter dress in champagne silk satin is minimal yet chic. When worn with a voluminous sleeved shawl. the in this look becomes a fashionable Helen of Troy.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Table Settings

2009-07-08T21:55:00.000-07:00

Discover the endless possibilities whatever your style you will find the elements to fit your vision …mix and match to create glamour and ambience, you’re only limited by your imagination.

Eastern Theme
Lush rich colours and beautiful satin fabrics are hallmarks of an eastern wedding
This style can be combined with western elements to create a setting that is truly exotic and breathtaking
Love set votive holder and candles….wooden elephant favor/bomboniere…..
Pillar candles, various sizes…….Indian card and place holder

Beach Theme
Whether you’re actually at a beach destination or you just want the feeling of the sun and sand, a beach theme can be as sophisticated as the traditional indoor reception
Create intimacy by setting tables under gauze linens and lighting with bowls of candles. Bamboo runner’s shells……. and palm trees complete the look

Garden Party Theme
A Garden Party theme relies on the natural surroundings you choose to set the tone.. Enhance this with green alternative and natural looking items to create a perfect balance
Fondue pot….love bird salt and pepper shakers …dove food picks….heart plates. green woven favour/bomboniere….crystal stem flutes…stainless steel torch…natural stones place card holders…birdhouse

Black and White Theme
Undoubtedly black and white is a very sophisticated colour choice. Choose elements that are classic and mix with clean lines and less ornate pieces to create an upscale and very modern look
Round table no and holders…glass vase water pearls and pillar candles…diamond champagne flutes…classic heart holder and filigree cards…swish cup and saucer…diamond napkin rings…bride&groom favour/bombondiere bags…..and confetti cards…diamond tealight holder…hugs&kisses votive holders..heart to heart salt&pepper shakers…swish napkin rings

Centrepieces
A table needs a focal point and flowers have always been the conventional choice. Something just a bit different …arrangements of candles or extravagantly presented food can look striking too….the formality of the occasion and style of menu being service…choose a centre piece accordingly.

For a round table….a single centerpiece is best
Long narrow table….perhaps repeat a series of arrangements through out its length
Glass cakestands are in many designs frilly to the classical which can be used in the centre of the table to hold sweets, biscuits fruits and of course cakes.

Candles make a beautiful centerpiece…thick pillar candles running the entire length of the table or an arrangement of floating candles bring a fairytale charm to the setting..alternatively maybe the soothing flicker of decorated nightlights or a radiant display of tapers…..keep in mind that fancy design and strident colour are out of place in an elegantly set table ….maximum impact keep your choice to white or ivory candles and plan column shapes for the overall effect

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Invitation Etiquette - A Guide For Writing Your Own Invitations

2008-12-07T17:21:00.000-08:00

You should send your invitations out no later than six to eight weeks prior to your wedding date. Post all local invites at the same time so no-one ends up receiving a late invite. Always make sure you place your return address on the back of the envelope just in case they get lost in the mail. For out of State or Overseas guests make sure you give them sufficient notice for them to attend if they wish. Some journeys may be lengthy and require a bit of saving.

Are you inviting any children to your wedding? If not then you would simply not put their names on the invitations. Invitations are about requesting someone’s attendance so don’t be tempted to put “No children please”. Should your answer be yes invite children by including their name on a line below their parents. Teenage children can be sent their own invitations.

Traditionally your Thank You notes should be sent no later than one month after receiving your gift. When sending a thank you, its much nicer and I’m sure much more appreciated if you hand write your note rather than having them printed. It’s a nice idea to have both you and your husband sign them. Try to keep a record of what each guest gave you as a gift so you can thank them for what they gave you. Remember there are no written rules. Don’t be afraid to develop your own style to create invites that are as individual as you.

Brides Parents

Mr and Mrs James Selwel
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of their daughter

Miss Melissa Jane

Mr Bradley Scott Jones

Saturday 20^th June 2009

189 Greenway Street
South Sydney, NSW

Issued by the Couple

Miss Melissa Jane Selwel

And

Mr Bradley Scott Jones

Request the honour of your presence
At their marriage

Saturday 20^th June 2009

189 Greenway Street
South Sydney, NSW

Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Your Cake Planner - 7 Step Guide to Help You Choose Your Wedding Cake

2008-11-05T19:28:00.000-08:00

RESEARCH
Look at as many bridal magazines, Internet sites and Cake magazines as you can, to get ideas on designs and colours

TASTE
Try lots of different flavours to find on that you and your future husband prefer

COLOUR
Consider your wedding style and or theme, and what colours you are having and how you want to incorporate that into your wedding cake design.

SHAPE
Think about the shape you want your cake to be. Have you considered how many tiers you will have. You will need to combine a mix of the style of your wedding and the number of mouths you need to feed.

ROLE
Will your cake be the only dessert you serve your guests, or will it be surrounded by other sweets on a dessert table?

BUDGET
How much money do you want to spend on your wedding cake? If you are like most brides, your wedding cake will ring up at approximately $3 to $6 per slice. Before you schedule an appointment with your cake designer, sit down and work out what realistic figure you and your budge can afford.

TASTING
The best part about shopping for a cake decorator has got to be the cake tasting

BUDGET TIPS
Have only a small wedding cake for cutting and another out the back to serve to your guestsIf you have your heart set on a four tier cake you could hire a tiered plate stand and use iced cup cakes co-ordinated to match your wedding colours.Instead of having your cake decorated, ask you cake decorator to ice it only and use your bouquet as the top decoration. Be careful that your flowers have not been sprayed with any chemicals

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Setting the Mood

2008-10-12T16:18:00.000-07:00

Varieties of Entertainment

Its hard to pick music that will please everyone. If you include a little from each music era, you will keep the atmosphere light and the dance floor full. Your day will call for different music. Your day will call for different music selections at various times. Hiring a professional means less headaches, both on the day and in the planning
If you want live music make sure your venue is equipped with adequate space, power supply and no noise restrictions. If you request songs that aren’t in your bands usual repertoire, be sure to book well in advance so the band will have a chance to learn the new music.
DJ’s can provide you with any sort of music you wish to hear. Some will even act as MC and have the experience to help create a terrific atmosphere. A DJ can supply you with your music for both your ceremony and reception. They can play your special selection as you walk down the aisle. Soft easy listening songs while you ear and then get the party rocking when all tasks have been completed.
Classical & Jazz are brimming with flavour, ranging from soloists, jazz trio, flautist, string quartets, and pianists. They’re great for setting the mood at your ceremony and reception.
Wedding/Cabaret Singers are flexible when performing your music requests. Many will give you the option of choosing your own songs or offer you choices from their own repertoire. Again, book well in advance so your entertainer can learn any new songs you may as for.

Your Expectations

Be clear with your entertainer and/or DJ about what you want and what you are expecting. This way you should avoid any disappointments on your special day.

By Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

The Bridal Gown

2008-09-07T20:23:00.000-07:00

Tips for choosing your wedding dress:

· When deciding upon a style of gown take into consideration what season your wedding will be held, the time of day your ceremony starts. Is the reception indoors or out? Is your wedding style traditional, formal, informal or themed?

· Try not to fall in love with a style, rather choose a gown style that suits you. Remember not all gown styles suit all body shapes.

· You may like to try on many different styles to get a good idea of what styles of gowns suit you and what styles to avoid.

· Once you have chosen a gown, consider having a day or two to think about your decision. Once purchased there is generally no going back.

· Make appointments so the bridal boutique staff can give you the personal assistance you require.

· Perhaps take a camera along with you. It’s easy to fall in love with every dress you try on. View your pictures for a couple of days it will become clear which dress becomes your favorite.

· Take with you one or two faithful friends or your mum and sister/s for their honest opinion.

· It’s a good idea to take with you a strapless bra and shoes with the same hell height as the ones you will be wearing on the day

· If your bridal hairstyle is an updo, wear it up when you go shopping you can then try on different headwear and veils to give you and idea of your total bridal look.

Most importantly, enjoy yourself shopping for your wedding gown should be great fun and is usually only done once in a lifetime. Allow yourself plenty of time so you don’t feel pressured into making a decision.

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Your Engagement

2008-08-06T21:27:00.000-07:00

A great way for families to meet at this joyous celebration.

The initial excitement of getting engaged may entice you to want to let the whole world know by shouting it from the rooftops. Instead you should probably consider telling those closest to you first to avoid hurting anybody’s feeling.

Announcement Etiquette

If you have any children from a previous marriage they should be the first to know It’s a good idea to already have prepared them for this possibility and therefore it wont be such a huge shock Sometimes this news can be hard for them so make sure you make them feel secure about your love for them and how your new spouse wont change this.

Its traditional that the brides parents are told first followed by the grooms immediately afterwards it is always much nicer to tell them in person however if distance is a problem then over the phone will be fine.

For your close friends a few phone calls will do here unless you want to surprise everyone and tell them all at once.

Decide if you want to mail announcements to your friends and family publish announcement in your local paper or announce it as a surprise at an engagement party.

It would be considered bad or improper etiquette to announce an engagement if a family member from either side is seriously sick or a death in the family has just occurred.

Publish Your Engagement

Check to see if there are any guidelines deadlines fees or regulations about publishing your engagement.

Ask if the accept pictures and whether they can be colour or black and white.
Make sure you put your name on the back and include a self addressed stamped envelope so the photo can be returned to you.

If they don’t give you strict guidelines follow the traditional guidelines. Typically an engagement announcement would include information about the two of you and your parent’s names and the date you became engaged.

The Groom and His Men

If your bride’s gown is a secret as most are, she will need to go shopping with you so that your choice of suit does not clash with her chosen style of gown.

The groom’s accessories enhance your overall look. A coloured tie, handkerchief or waistcoat can change a nice black dress suit into something special.

If buying new shoes make sure you have a chance to wear them in a little beforehand to eliminate the chance of blisters.

If hiring your suits all suits should be tried on by every member of the bridal party to ensure that they’ve all been fitted correctly.

Check all suits are in good condition before leaving the formal wear supplier.

On the morning of the wedding many grooms relax by visiting the beach playing a round of golf or other such sport with their groomsmen. If going outdoors make sure to wear sunscreen.
The groom should not overlook his personal care remember this is your big day too. Pamper yourself a little and experience a shave at the barbers or a hot towel treatment. If getting a hair cut you should do so about a week before to prevent the “just cut” look.

Groom's Responsibilities

Make a list of guests from his side of the family and friends
Responsible for purchasing the engagement and weddings rings
Prepare a speech
Choose the wedding transport
Choose his bestman and groomsmen
Is traditionally responsible for organizing the honeymoon
Dance with his bride mum, mum in law and matron honour

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Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Bouquet Styles and Shapes

2008-08-06T21:15:00.000-07:00

Posy Bouquet

The posy bouquet can be formal semi formal or informally designed. This type of bouquet is relatively small and round in shape with smaller flowers that are either wired or tied tightly together by their stems, looks great with ribbon to match your wedding dress

Strauss Bouquet

This is natural stem bouquet similar to the posy bouquet however it is usually larger. The flowers are arranged in a looser manner with the stems longer creating an informal look

Trailing Bouquet

The trailing bouquet is not rounded at the top like the posy bouquet it is usually a fairly narrow bouquet from the top to the bottom of the trail. In saying that the trail may be wider narrow, however is usually similar in width from the top down to the bottom. Can be semi-formal to formal depending on the type of flowers you choose

Teardrop Bouquet

A traditional and formal style of bouquet that consists of a structured posy top The trail is very side and just like the name suggests becomes a point at the bottom of the trail to form the teardrop shape. This can be one of the most expensive bouquets to create as each flower is individually wired to create the desired shape. It is a very stable bouquet style for flowers that need the support

Cascade Bouquet

This bouquet is often known as a multiple trail bouquet because it has numerous trails tumbling from the top. It is often very unstructured in appearance

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Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

The Bridal Veil

2008-07-16T18:17:00.000-07:00

Tips for wearing a Veil

Keep diamantes and other fine details on your veil to a minimum. They may show up in your photos like black dots

Complement a heavily beaded gown with a plan sheer tulle veil

Don’t go for heavy detail in your dress and veil

Don’t wear a long and multi-layered veil if you’re petite. The veil will overpower you and your gown.

Try to keep it in proportion.

Your veil doesn’t have to be exactly the same colour as your dress, just don’t mix start white with ivory colours

Types of Veils

Blusher
The short part of the veil that is pulled down over the face until it is lifted back over the head during the ceremony.

Ballet
A veil length that’s falls somewhere around your ankles

Chapel
A formal veil that extends on the floor. Complements a formal style gown with a train

Cathedral
The cathedral train is the most formal veil style. May have multiple layers. Most appropriately worn with a cathedral train in a very formal setting

Elbow
The elbow length veil is most appropriate for an informal setting. It finishes at or near the elbow

Fingertip
A long veil that reaches the fingertips. Single or double layered

Flyaway
A multi-layered veil that just brushes the shoulders. Appropriate for an anakle length gown. Suits more informal styles.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
http://www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au/

An African Affair

2008-06-04T17:50:00.000-07:00

Recently I flew to Johannesburg then traveled about 6 hour north to the Inyati Game Reserve…just near Kruger Park. During my three day stay I did a renewal of vows for an American couple celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary in the middle of the game reserve over a morning tea.

I flew to Madagascar and traveled 3 hours south to the mission fields. As soon as I arrived I was asked if I would like to do a civil ceremony (their legal work is done at the Bureau … as they call it … several weeks ahead of the wedding day). Unfortuately the bride could not afford a bridal gown as they were saving up for something else. …She still looked lovely.

Jan Littlejohn

Ceremonies with Style

http://www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au/

Popular Wedding Songs

2008-01-18T23:00:00.000-08:00

Amazing - Alex Lloyd
Crazy for You - Madonna

Beautiful in My Eyes - Van Morrison
Endless Love - Diana Ross and Lionel Ritchie
Can’t help falling In Love - Elvis Presley
First time ever I saw your face- Roberta Flack
Moon River - Breakfast at Tiffanys Theme
You are so Beautiful - Joe Cocker
Power of Love - Celine Dion
It has to be you - Harry Connick Jnr
I do it for you - 1927
Love me Tender - Elvis Presley

Jan Littlejohn

Ceremonies with Style

www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Diamond Shapes and the Four C's

2008-01-18T22:54:00.000-08:00

Colour

At first glance, most diamonds appear to be white, however they do contain a hint of colour and this is expressed by an alphabetical code.

A diamond coded ‘D’ is the finest white, while ‘J’ diamonds are slightly tinted. A ‘K’ code onwards indicates a diamond with brown or yellow tints.

Clarity

The term clarity refers to the presence of naturally occurring marks within a diamond

Mars which are only visible under magnification are termed either ‘Flawless’ VVS or VS or SI depending on the nature, size and position of the mark

Diamonds which are marks visible to the naked eye are referred to as ‘Included or Pique’

Carat

Carat refers to the scale of weight for a diamond with 100 points equaling one carat.

Diamond cutters are skilled in the art of bringing the diamond to its true brilliance by creating the exact angles for light to reflect from one facet to another

A diamond can be the finest colour and clarity but will not really sparkle if it is not well cut.

Cut

Cut also refers to the shape, such as traditional round brilliant cut, marquise, emerald, pearl, oval heart, baguette and the modern princess.

The princess cut Is square shaped but faceted to give brilliance and this is becoming a very popular diamond, both as a solitaire and set in shoulders or diamond wedding rings.

Different Settings

A traditional claw set solitaire is still very popular because it allows plenty of light to the diamond giving maximum sparkle

The bezel setting with its rim of gold around the diamond provides an alternative for people who are concerned about claws catching but it does tend to cut light from the diamond. It does not however make it any safer than a claw setting

Some styles of engagement rings have a flow of smaller diamonds channel or grain set in the band which often means that a wedding ban has to be specially made to fit. A fitted wedding bank can be made with diamonds to match or left plain.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
http://www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au/

The Garden of Your Mind

2007-12-09T16:49:00.000-08:00

Wishing you all a fabulous Christmas and a great 2008

The Garden Of Your Mind

Your mind is like a garden:
Whatever you plant will grow.
Your thoughts are seeds you're planting:
They produce, each after its kind.

And you, just like a gardener,
Can choose which seeds you'll plant.
And by the choice of seeds you sow,
You choose the harvest you will reap.

So don't plant seeds of lack or fear,
Disease, discord, or doubt.
Plant, instead, the seeds you want;
Then things you want will sprout.

This gift of choice is given to all,
And not to just a few.
The harvest, friend, is in your hands:
The crop depends on you.

So take this power which you've been given,
And use it every day,
To gain from life the good you want,
For you have found the way.

Charles David Heineke, 1975

Marriage Celebrant

2007-12-09T16:43:00.000-08:00

Once you’ve chosen a venue for your ceremony, you’ll need to approach a marriage celebrant to officiate your wedding vows. If you and your partner are planning a religious ceremony, you will have an appointed celebrant referred to you by the venue

Points to consider

· How long will the ceremony be
· Can you add your own personal touches
· Are there restrictions on the throwing of rice/confetti
· Will there be adequate parking for guest
· Will there be adequate signage for guests to find your ceremony especially if it is being held outdoors in parklands.

A civil ceremony offers you freedom of choice for the location of your wedding. There are many reception venues that offer suitable ceremony locations on site, allowing you to spend more time with your guests.

A celebrant will enable your to personalize your ceremony. Many celebrants will allow you to choose your own vows (or help you write them), but they can also assist you in constructing a ceremony that is as unique as you are. Provided all legal requirements have been met your vows can be as creative as you wish.

Many marriage celebrants will be able to advise you on music selection guest and bridal party positioning, and they may even provide table’s chairs and copies of your ceremony. Some also offer a calligraphy service for your marriage certificate.

Because a celebrant plays such a big part in your wedding day make suite you and your partner both feel comfortable with your final choice. Make as may calls as you need to. If possible arrange a live five minute phone call or personal meeting. Above all whomever you choose should be able to accommodate all your requirements.

A celebrant must be licensed and a professional one will advise you up front of all their costs and charges as well as what is required from you.

When deciding what type of ceremony you would like, talk with both your families regarding any spiritual or religious beliefs you have

MARRIAGE LEGALITIES

What is Marriage

A marriage is described by the marriage act 1961 under the family law act 1975 (Cth) as the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others voluntarily entered into for life. De facto relationships, homosexual, relationships and aboriginal customary marriages are not recognized as legal marriages.

Legal Requirements

The legal requirements for marriage are set out in the Marriage Act 1961 (Cth) the legal marriageable age is 18 years. In some circumstances a person ages 16 -18 can apply to the family court or their local magistrates court for consent to marry

Proper Notice and Ceremony

You must complete a “notice of intended marriage” (form13) and give this to the minister or celebrant at least one month and one day before the date of the intended marriage. The notice is valid for up to eighteen months, from the time it is given to the celebrant/minister

Change of Name

Proof of your marriage is a “Certificate of Marriage” which is signed by you and your partner, the celebrant or minister and two witnesses over the age of 18 and presented to you at the conclusion of the marriage ceremony. In many cases this is sufficient proof for couples to provide marriage and request a “change of name” However the Passports Office and some other organizations no longer accept the certificate presented the couple by their celebrant. In such cases, couples will need to apply to their Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages for the official certificate

Financial Agreements

Some people who are contemplating marriage may make a written agreement setting out how their property and financial resources will be dealt with if they separate

Must inform

· Employer
· Income tax office
· Driving license authority
· Passport office· Doctor & medical authorities
· Medicare
· Bank and building societies
· Credit cards companies
· Mortgage lender
· Investment & savings companies
· Life insurance & pension companies
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Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

2007-12-09T16:39:00.000-08:00

· Start with a nice clean piece of paper.

· Write down the first 10 things that come to mind in response to this sentence: "I love (my partner’s name) because ..." Set this piece of paper aside.

· Now – how about YOU?

· What do YOU bring to this union? What promises will you make?

· Write down 4-5 things you want to promise this very special person with whom you want to spend your life.·

- Do you promise to be there in bad times as well as good?·
- Do you promise to be faithful with your body as well as with your mind and heart?·
- Do you promise to support your partner even when he/she isn’t perfect?
- Do you promise to share all your resources? Some?
- What about if he/she gets sick?
- What about if you have a serious fight?

· You get the idea . . . what are you promising in this union?

· Think about your relationship.· what words will you use? Husband? Wife? Spouse? Partner for Life?.

· If you’re each creating your own unique vow, insert a sentence symbolizing the fact that you come together as unique individuals, without surrendering your individuality, :
- John, I accept you as my husband.
- I embrace you, Susan, as my partner for life.

Whatever works for you, a wedding vow should contain a phrase that indicates your commitment.
Read your vow out loud to a trusted someone other than your partner. Does it sound like you? you have created one of the greatest gifts you will ever make.

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Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

More Wedding Handy Hints

2007-11-06T15:13:00.000-08:00

Book Early

There are some days when I'd love to be able to clone myself - so many wonderful people, and only one me. Celebrants and local wedding venues often have bookings up to two years in advance. March and November are the most popular months - and "everything wedding" will be heavily booked around those times. You may like to think about either a Friday evening or Sunday wedding.

Bridesmaids

A plea from a local dressmaker - when selecting your bridesmaids do take into account how far they will have to travel for fittings. You may like to purchase enough fabric and patterns for all your bridesmaids and have each lady have their own made. Please too, consider both mothers, they may like to tone in with the bridal party, and each be consulted about what the other is wearing.

Brides "men"

Yes, these days a Bride can have men as her attendants, so too can the Groom have a "Best Woman".

Budget

This is important and may need to be discussed with all contributing parties. Decide who is paying for what. It can be helpful to decide early who is organising which aspects of the wedding. Look under Checklist for a guide. If your budget is really tight, you may like to contemplate a late morning ceremony and a catered picnic lunch (local guests could bring outdoor chairs and tables).

Ceremony

What would you like to share with your guests about your relationship? What does your relationship mean to you? Is the Bride going to be "given away"? Perhaps both of you would like to be "given away" by your families? I really want to help make your day as wonderful as possible, and therefore will create and personalise your Ceremony just for you.

Children

A wonderful addition to any wedding, but they do get tired so you might like to time your ceremony around their sleep patterns. There are many simple ways children can be included, from flower girls and ring bearers to the important job of holding the bouquet. If children are to be included in the Ceremony, it is important to have a rehearsal beforehand so they know what is expected of them.One of the most important times for children is immediately after the Ceremony. They can tend to feel left out of things, so it's important to nominate an adult who they are comfortable with, to take charge - of course telling them how well they did.

Some couples hire a nanny or clown for the reception so children can attend the formal part then adjourn to a separate room for fun activities.

Confetti

A lot of wedding venues forbid the use of confetti because of its environmental impact. Your guests may like to use bubbles, dried rose petals or rosemary (a sign of fertility) instead.

Decisions

Oh so many of these to be made and often, so many people trying to make them. This can be really tricky sometimes, after all, its your day. You may like to let the major contributors take decisions in turns - sometimes the nest way to nip conflict in the bud before it arrives.Facials: If you are contemplating a facial, Beauty Therapists suggest three days prior for your skin to look it's best on the day. And if you don't already.. a few weeks before the wedding add a lot of fresh fruit to your diet. Your skin will glow health and vitality.

Gifts

This can be difficult for guests when couples have already set up house. Some stores offer a Wedding Register service whereby you leave a “Wish List” from which guests can select a gift that also suits their budget. Alternatively you may like Guests to donate to your favourite charity. One couple had an early morning wedding, no gifts, and guests paid for their own breakfast. There's often a family member or friend who would really like to help out. A handy job for them would be to get them to write what gift came from who on the back of the card attached. That way all the cards can be kept separate and you can thank each person for their specific gift.

Guests

If your guests are coming from out of town, along with a local map, you may like to include points of interest/restaurants etc in your area. Accommodation: Do you have treasured relatives and/or friends who may need to travel long distances for your special day? If so, accommodation may be heavily booked at certain times of the year. Budgets for guests will also factor into this, as at peak season the rates will rise.

Guest Book

You may like to warn guests prior, so they can bring a special poem or saying, photo or memory for your Guest Book. With their invitation you could also mail them a blank scrapbook page on which they can write their happy memories of you.An alternative to this, at the reception have a framed canvas, on which guests can write a short message.

Guest Activities

Your photos can take up to two hours. What do you do for your guests? You may like to think about some of the following to keep them amused. Have them taught line dancing/how to work a hula hoop, rent circus side shows (coconut shies etc), hire a magician/ comedian/tarot reader/puppet show, serve high tea, have a wine tasting.

"Hen Party" or Stag Night

Much as these events may be fun for the participants, you may like to think about holding these events 2 or 3 weeks prior to the wedding. Legally a Celebrant cannot perform the wedding ceremony if one of the couple is "under the influence" of anything other than love!

Helpful relatives and friends

There are many areas where those wishing to help can be a great asset. From someone with great handwriting doing the place-cards to that very organised friend writing/typing out envelopes for the thank you cards, there are a myriad of jobs available.

Honeymoon

Book your honeymoon early - you may need to get Visas, etc.

Invitations

Invitations are generally sent out two months prior to the day, earlier if the wedding is to be held during a popular holiday time. Please include your "Plan B" option in case of rain, with a couple of mobile numbers (helpful friends) guests can contact on the day.

Lateness

Not fun for the Groom nor the Guests. The number of times I've heard someone say "Oh its the Bride's prerogative to be late"...this in 38 degree heat with a lot of the men sweltering in their suits. Often this is not the fault of the Bride/Groom/ etc. Emergencies (hairdresser's power going out, photographer's car not starting etc) can sure happen on the day so book your appointments early.

Marriage

Food for thought, so many couples say after the wedding "If only we'd stressed less about the wedding and focused more on our marriage". A pre marriage class or counselling can be invaluable and a great distraction to the myriad of details needing attention for the wedding.

Music

Please - if you're having a live band or singer for your Processional/ walking in music, let your guests and Celebrant know if they are going to play the entire song.

Photos

Ah, that wonderful creative photographer! All too often they get carried away with taking that perfect shot....meanwhile, back at the venue your groom, guests and Celebrant are melting. Being over 10 minutes late is not fair and not an option.

Some couples create a website on which they will put photos for their guests to view. There are also sites like

www.ringo.com where you can post your photos so families and friends can also view them.

Lighting

If having an afternoon wedding, you may like to think about getting some of your photos taken before the Ceremony. This can save a lot of waiting time for your guests, and allow time before daylight disappears. Do check with your photographer before scheduling.

Plan B

Important, important ..and did I mention important! No-one wants you and your guests to get drenched. As mentioned under "Invitations" helpful friends with mobiles can be invaluable to redirect guests to an alternative venue if you get rained out. If the weather looks doubtful and you are having chairs for your guests, a supply of old towels can also be handy to wipe the rain off the seating.

Seating Plan for the reception

Ask me to email you information on this. It was too large a file to put in here but contains some handy information.

Style

Would you both like a formal or relaxed style of wedding? What reflects your personalities? Your guests will appreciate knowing the style, formal or casual.

Thank You to your Guests

Australia Post offer a service whereby they will do a special (legal) postage stamp featuring one of your wedding photos. Ph 131318 http://pstamps.auspost.com.au/index_wf.html

Themes

Some couples have theme weddings, i.e. Star Trek, Rock and Roll, or everyone wearing the same colour. Another different idea is to hold the wedding at a place of special significance, e.g. the school where you met, the park where the proposal took place. You could even have a "This is your Life" theme, where guests bring something significant representing their connection with you. Alternatively, if you are like a lot of couples who want a casual event, you may like to have a Barbeque reception.

Timing

To contemplate - Do you have many older guests or children in your bridal party or as guests? If so, you may like to opt for an earlier ceremony so they won't get too tired. Many couples are now opting for Friday or Sunday weddings. Another alternative is to split your day. Have a special breakfast (or lunch) with older family members then hold your ceremony late morning (or afternoon). Lunch (or dinner) can then be held with friends and work colleagues.

Venue

If your wedding is outdoors, you may like to actually go there at the same time of the day that the wedding is scheduled. Are your guests going to be in full sun or shade? How much passing traffic noise is there? Are there any local churches which may have bell ringing practise? Bookings can be heavy at popular wedding venues - check out the availability early if you have a favourite.
Should you wish to marry in a public place you will need both the permission of Council, (or other Government department), and often a booking. If outdoors, you will need a contingency plan in case of bad weather.

Once a venue is booked, it can help save arguments later if you get quotes and confirmations in writing. Use the expertise of the Venue Staff - they have years of experience.

Wills

(From a legal eagle). Marriage revokes existing wills, unless they were made specifically in contemplations of the marriage. If either of the couple should die suddenly without having made a new will, the estate would go according to the laws of intestacy, which is not always what the person would have wanted. With so many second marriages and split families these days, new wills are essential.

It was the accepted practice in Babylon 4,000 years ago that for a month after the wedding, the bride's father would supply his son-in-law with all the mead he could drink. Mead is a honey beer and because their calendar was lunar based, this period was called the honey month .. which we know today as the honeymoon.

Jan Littlejohn

Ceremonies with Style

http://www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au/

Wedding Traditions

2007-11-05T19:46:00.000-08:00

What does Bridal mean?

The brew the bride and groom would drink was referred to as "bryd ealu" or "bride's ale," which became "bridal". An old meaning of ale was feast or celebration but this evolved into bridal somewhere in the 14th century, when it was used to mean the totality of the wedding, not just the feasting afterwards.

Bride:

One theory: the word bride derives from mediaeval Latin and old French which means only one thing - a daughter-in-law.

Bridegroom:

Language experts suggest that before 1066 that the word was bryd-guma, bryd meaning bride, and guma, a variant of the Latin word homo, meaning man.Within 2 centuries guma had disappeared as a stand-alone word and bryd-guma had evolved as bryd-gome (gome being an old English word for man, as in Gawain and the Grene Gome).The word groom only became associated with horses much later (the 17th century).

What does Wedding mean?

“Wedding” literally meant the purchase of a bride for breeding purposes.
The word wedding comes from the root meaning to gamble or wager. The Anglo-Saxon word "wedd" meant that the groom would vow to marry the woman, but it also meant the money or barter that the groom paid the bride's father. This is believed why it is still customary for the father-of-the-bride to “give away” his daughter.

“Tie the Knot"

To “Tie the Knot”, came from the Roman times when the bride wore a girdle that was tied into knots which the groom had the fun of untying.

You may Kiss the Bride…

The kiss that seals the wedding has long been a token of bonding and the exchange of spirits as each partner sends a part of their self into the new spouse's soul, there to abide ever after.

Bride's side/Groom's side

In ancient days, fathers would offer daughters as peace offerings to warring tribes. Because of the hostility, the families were placed on opposite sides of the church so the ceremony could go on without bloodshed. The ceremony united the two warring factions into one family, and danger of war was resolved.

Bride on the Left…

One thought on the origin of the bride standing on the left goes back to the days when the groom would capture his bride by kidnapping her. If the groom had to fight off other suitors, the groom would hold his bride-to-be with his left hand allowing his right hand to be free to use his sword.

The Attendants…

The tradition of bridesmaids evolved from the custom of surrounding the Bride with other richly dressed women, in order to confuse the evil spirits.

The first marriages were by capture. The best man would help the groom fight off other men who wanted the chosen woman, and prevent her family from finding them. The “best warrior” would stand for the groom, thus the “best man”.

Confetti or Rice throwing

Showering couples was a tradition thought to have originated in order to keep evil spirits away from the newly married couple. In some cultures the bride and groom were showered with sweets and flour, small fruits and nuts. Rice, grain and corn have always been symbols of fertility. Confetti was thought to be an evolution of these although these days rose petals are more environmentally friendly.

Something old something new, something borrowed, something blue (and occasionally "and a sixpence in the shoe)...

The "old" needs to be something which has belonged to a happily married woman. The wearing of such an item insures a lucky transfer of happiness to the new bride. The "new" is the wedding gown, the shoes, or other bridal attire. The "borrowed" must be some object of gold to guarantee wealth and fortune in the future. The "blue" is symbolic of the heavens and also of true love. The "sixpence" must be worn in the heel of the left shoe to insure wealth and prosperity.

Groom's flower

Traditionally, the Groom's buttonhole was adorned with a single flower plucked from the Bride's bouquet. This came from the medieval days when a Knight wore his the colours of his lady to show his love.

Honeymoon

The word honey is from "meala" in Irish. The word for honeymoon is "mi na meala", the “month of honey” and refers to how the bride and groom would spend that period of time. In Bulgaria, couples were locked away together for a week!

Irish monks first produced the fermented honey brew called mead for medicinal purposes; then found it could make well people feel even better. Following the wedding a sufficient amount of mead was given to the bride and groom, along with special goblets, so they could share the unique brew for one full moon after the wedding--and thus the term honeymoon was coined. It was believed that this delicate yet potent drink was the best way to ensure a good beginning for a new marriage and it was also believed to endow powers of virility and fertility.

It is also lucky that if on the journey to the church the bride to sees a policeman, clergyman, doctor or a blind man on the way to the wedding.

Wedding Traditions From Different Cultures

African American: Jumping the broom. Slaves were not permitted to marry in America. They would have a public declaration of love and commitment by jumping over a broom to the beat of drums.

Cuban: Cuban wedding receptions are famous for their festivities. There is almost always lively music and dancing at a Cuban marriage celebration. Wedding Guests partake in the traditional money dance, where each man who dances with the new bride must pin money to her dress, to help the newlyweds with their honeymoon expenses.

England: (FLOWER GIRL) The children act more as "pages" mainly to hold the train.......actually this was done by a young boy.

India: To ward off evil, the groom’s mother would sprinkle flower petals over the couple at the end of the ceremony.

Irish Tradition: (For Good Luck)

Sun shining on the bride.To hear a cuckoo on the wedding morning To see three magpies.After the wedding ceremony, it was important that a man and not a woman be the first to wish joy to the new bride

Italian traditions: To ward off evil eye, the groom would carry a piece of iron in his pocket on his wedding day, since his happy situation might provoke envy, and invite supernatural danger. (As well the bride wore a veil to ward of evil) Tearing the veil was considered good luck.
At the end of the wedding day, the couple shattered a vase or glass into many pieces. The number of pieces represented the expected number of years they'll be happily married to one another.

Common theme, past and present, emphasizes food. A strong link with family life, food is the focal point of festivities. The sheer volume of food reflects how highly anticipated and festive a typical Italian wedding is. The elaborate wedding of the couple brings together the friends and relatives of both families in a celebration of their new relationship.

Japan: To become husband and wife, the couple takes sips of sake, becoming husband and wife after the first sip.

Jewish Tradition: The Jewish Chuppa canopy offered a sanctuary from evil spirits.

Mexican: For fun & entertainment, a traditional piñata. And guests would form a heart--shaped ring around the couple before the first newlywed dance.

Scottish Beliefs: For good fortune, a bride should be met at the door after the wedding ceremony by her mother, who must then break a currant bun over her daughter's head.

Sweden: Swedish wives wear three wedding rings: for betrothal, for marriage, and for motherhood.Wales: Spooning: coined by lovesick men of Wales. A suitor carved a spoon of wood and presented it to his beloved. If she wore it around her neck on a ribbon, she returned his love and they were engaged.

Jan Littlejohn
Ceremonies with Style
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

THE HEN’S PARTY

2007-05-17T21:20:00.000-07:00

TIPS FOR MAKING YOUR HEN’S NIGHT A NIGHT TO REMEMBER

Your Hen’s Night is a chance to let your hair down amidst the pressure of your wedding preparations, and to celebrate your last days of being single.

There are a number of different ways you can celebrate your Hens night, and as it is traditionally the Matron of Honour (or Chief Bridesmaid) who helps with all the preparations, you will need to work closely together so she knows that type of Hen’s celebration you would like.

Whatever you decide to do, it’s a good idea to have your Hen’s party at least a week before the wedding. You want to look and feel your very best on your wedding day and a late night of partying and recovering from a hangover definitely won’t help.

In addition to all that, your wedding day is a very tiring affair – you are on your feet for long periods of time and are always the centre of attention. You don’t want your “happy snaps” featuring you yawning all day.

SAFETY FIRST
If going out for your hen’s night celebrate, remember safety in numbers

Ensure you have a way to get home and if you are traveling by taxi, have a friend ride with you or stay in contact via a mobile phone

If you have male entertainment at a private party, ensure someone remains sober to greet them & take care of the financial arrangements

Hen’s Party Ideas

A cocktail party. Get each guest to bring a different bottle
A weekend away with your best girlfriends
Hire a bus/limousine to take you and your friend to various clubs & hot spots
A karaoke night, at a karaoke bar or a friend’ home
Hire a male entertainer and/or g-string waiters and party at home or a friends
Have a lingerie, giftware or adult novelty party
Spend a day indulging in some serious relaxation therapy at a day spa with friends
Go to a male revue
A wine tour through the wine region by horse and carriage
Get dressed in your best frock and spend a day at the races
Spend the day doing your favourite hobby and share your passion with your friends

THE BRIDAL SHOWER

2007-03-26T17:34:00.001-07:00

CELEBRATE WITH CLOSE FRIENDS & FAMILY YOUR UPCOMING MARRIAGE
Traditionally the bridal shower was held to provide the bride-to-be with gifts to help her set up her new home. These days the majority of couples have already set up home and therefore the bridal shower is a great opportunity for family and friends to show their support for the next chapter in her life

The Main/Matron-of-Honour traditionally hosts the bridal shower. She should consult the bride when compiling the invitation list, however generally you invite female family members of the bride and groom mothers, grandmothers, aunts, cousins etc. She should also invite close female friends of the bride and the bride’s family.

TUPPERWARE PARTY
Tupperware is a must have for every kitchen, and if your bride is just starting out, this can be an excellent way to get her kitchen and pantry off to a flying start. Tupperware parties offer their hosts discounts and bonus gifts when your party has purchased items to a certain value. Coordinate this with your Tupperware Representative as they can suggest many themes for your party.

LINGERIE PARTY
These party’s are great fun. What an excellent way to get lovely new lingerie for your wedding night and honeymoon. There are many companies in town that offer lingerie party plans. They sell all sorts of items from teddy’s to battery operated toys. Maybe not quite the part that grandma or your great aunt would appreciate.

LINEN PARTY
Keeping up with you home linen requirements is ongoing. Get off to a great start by having a linen party. Choose a colour scheme and request your guests to purchase all sorts of linen in your chosen colours.

GARDEN PARTY
Is your bride a bit of a green thumb? An outdoor garden party might be just the thing. Encourage guests to purchase gifts for the garden. For small thankyou gifts you could give each of your guests a small packet of seeds which they could plant in the bride and grooms honour.

BRIDAL SHOWER TIPS
· Consider you brides interests & hobbies when deciding on your bridal shower party theme
· The maid of honour should record any gifts given to the bride to assist her later when it comes time to write the thankyou.
· Keep the guest list relatively small. The bridal shower should be an intimate affair
· Try to keep the bride from having no planning to do, as this day/night should be in her honour.

Jan Littlejohn
jan@ceremonieswithstyle.com.au
www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

Traditional Wedding Anniversary Symbols and Gift Guide

2007-02-09T18:52:00.000-08:00

Here are the corresponding symbols and gifts for each Anniversary:

1st Wedding Anniversary -- paper

2nd Wedding Anniversary -- cotton

3rd Wedding Anniversary -- leather

4th Wedding Anniversary -- flowers or fruits

5th Wedding Anniversary -- wood

6th Wedding Anniversary -- sugar or candy

7th Wedding Anniversary -- wool

8th Wedding Anniversary -- bronze

9th Wedding Anniversary -- pottery

10th Wedding Anniversary -- tin

11th Wedding Anniversary -- steel

12th Wedding Anniversary -- linen or silk

13th Wedding Anniversary -- lace

14th Wedding Anniversary -- agate

15th Wedding Anniversary -- crystal

16th Wedding Anniversary -- silver hollowware, peridot

17th Wedding Anniversary -- furniture, watches

18th Wedding Anniversary -- porcelain, cat’s-eye

19th Wedding Anniversary -- bronze, aquamarine

20th Wedding Anniversary -- china

21st Wedding Anniversary -- brass or nickel

22nd Wedding Anniversary -- copper

23rd Wedding Anniversary -- silver plate

24th Wedding Anniversary -- musical instruments

25th Wedding Anniversary -- silver

26th Wedding Anniversary -- original pictures

27th Wedding Anniversary -- sculpture

28th Wedding Anniversary -- orchids

29th Wedding Anniversary -- new furniture

30th Wedding Anniversary -- pearl

31st Wedding Anniversary -- timepieces

32nd Wedding Anniversary --conveyances (including automobiles)

33rd Wedding Anniversary -- amethyst

34th Wedding Anniversary -- opal

35th Wedding Anniversary -- coral or jade

36th Wedding Anniversary -- bone china

37th Wedding Anniversary -- alabaster

38th Wedding Anniversary -- beryl and tourmaline

39th Wedding Anniversary -- lace

40th Wedding Anniversary -- ruby or garnet

41st Wedding Anniversary -- land

42nd Wedding Anniversary -- improved real estate

43rd Wedding Anniversary -- trips

44th Wedding Anniversary -- groceries

45th Wedding Anniversary -- sapphire

50th Wedding Anniversary -- gold

55th Wedding Anniversary -- emerald or turquoise

60th Wedding Anniversary -- diamond

65th Wedding Anniversary -- diamond

70th Wedding Anniversary -- platinum

75th Wedding Anniversary -- diamond

And just as an endnote . . . .

Gentlemen . . . . if you are never quite sure . . . . Diamonds are appropriate any year!!!!

Jan Littlejohn

www.CeremoniesWithStyle.com.au