Sunday, December 9, 2007

Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

· Start with a nice clean piece of paper.

· Write down the first 10 things that come to mind in response to this sentence: "I love (my partner’s name) because ..." Set this piece of paper aside.

· Now – how about YOU?

· What do YOU bring to this union? What promises will you make?

· Write down 4-5 things you want to promise this very special person with whom you want to spend your life.·

- Do you promise to be there in bad times as well as good?·
- Do you promise to be faithful with your body as well as with your mind and heart?·
- Do you promise to support your partner even when he/she isn’t perfect?
- Do you promise to share all your resources? Some?
- What about if he/she gets sick?
- What about if you have a serious fight?

· You get the idea . . . what are you promising in this union?

· Think about your relationship.· what words will you use? Husband? Wife? Spouse? Partner for Life?.

· If you’re each creating your own unique vow, insert a sentence symbolizing the fact that you come together as unique individuals, without surrendering your individuality, :
- John, I accept you as my husband.

- I embrace you, Susan, as my partner for life.

Whatever works for you, a wedding vow should contain a phrase that indicates your commitment.
Read your vow out loud to a trusted someone other than your partner. Does it sound like you? you have created one of the greatest gifts you will ever make.

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Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Civil Celebrants for all occasions. Jan Littlejohn will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world - visit www.ceremonieswithstyle.com.au

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